{"product_id":"how-to-raise-an-adult-break-free-of-the-overparenting-trap-and-prepare-your-kid-for-success","title":"How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success","description":"\u003ctable align=\"center\" border=\"0\" cellpadding=\"2\" cellspacing=\"0\" width=\"100%\"\u003e\n\u003ctr\u003e\n\u003ctd class=\"productDetailSmallElements\"\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eBiographical Note\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eJulie Lythcott-Haims \u003c\/b\u003eis the \n\u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003ebestselling author of \n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult \u003c\/i\u003eand \n\u003ci\u003eReal American\u003c\/i\u003e. They hold a BA from Stanford, a JD from Harvard Law School, and an MFA from California College of the Arts. They reside in the Bay Area with their partner, their two itinerant young adults, and their mother.\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eReview Quotes\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"\u003cb\u003eThis is the stuff of the best parenting advice\u003c\/b\u003e . . . .\u003cb\u003e A worthwhile read for every parent\u003c\/b\u003e . . . . Our children are engaged in the serious work of becoming an adult. \u003cb\u003eWith this book, Lythcott-Haims provides the missing user manual.\u003c\/b\u003e\" --\u003ci\u003eThe Chicago Tribune\u003c\/i\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"This book is \n\u003cb\u003ethe antidote to helicopter parenting\u003c\/b\u003e. Lythcott-Haims' research, combined with a decade of experience as a Stanford dean, makes for some \n\u003cb\u003eimportant insights into the state of parenting in America today\u003c\/b\u003e.\"--\n\u003ci\u003eSan Francisco Chronicle\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"[\n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e] may just be \n\u003cb\u003ethe \u003ci\u003eBlack Hawk Down\u003c\/i\u003e of helicopter parenting\u003c\/b\u003e. Lythcott-Haims, who \n\u003cb\u003ebrings some authority to the subject\u003c\/b\u003e as Stanford's former dean of freshmen and undergraduate advising, has seen varieties of extreme parental interference suggesting not just a lack of common sense, but a lack of wisdom and healthy boundaries.\"--\n\u003ci\u003eThe New York Times Book Review\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"[\n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e] is \n\u003cb\u003erefreshing\u003c\/b\u003e in many ways, and as parents ourselves, we \n\u003cb\u003ehighly recommend\u003c\/b\u003e it.\"--\n\u003ci\u003eThe News \u0026amp; Observer\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"This is such a \n\u003cb\u003eterrific\u003c\/b\u003e book. So \n\u003cb\u003eincredibly timely\u003c\/b\u003e. Parents will love it and devour it because it's such a concern . . . instead of thinking about raising children, we need to be thinking about raising adults.\"--CBS \"This Morning\" \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Lythcott-Haims \n\u003cb\u003ebreaks down the source of helicopter parenting habits\u003c\/b\u003e, and uses studies and stories to illustrate the developmental, emotional, and psychological toll that overparenting can take on children. They also \n\u003cb\u003egive parents some constructive tips\u003c\/b\u003e for stepping back and allowing the next generation of leaders to become fully formed adults.\"--MSNBC \"Melissa Harris-Perry\" \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Julie Lythcott-Haims, I hope \n\u003ci\u003emy \u003c\/i\u003echild has a dean, teacher, others like you out there . . . Thank you for spreading this really \n\u003cb\u003eimportant and powerful\u003c\/b\u003e message.\"--FOX \"Fox \u0026amp; Friends\" \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"\n\u003cb\u003eReveals some terrifying truths\u003c\/b\u003e.\"--\n\u003ci\u003eTelegraph \u003c\/i\u003e(UK) \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"\n\u003cb\u003eAt last, a parenting book I can get behind\u003c\/b\u003e.\"--\n\u003ci\u003eThe Independent \u003c\/i\u003e(UK) \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Run, don't walk to your nearest bookstore and get this book! It's Malcolm Gladwell meets Paul Tough meets Madeline Levine in a \n\u003cb\u003efresh, timely\u003c\/b\u003e take on raising excellent adults from former Stanford freshmen admissions dean and parent Julie Lythcott-Haims. Never preachy, and oh-so-relatable Lythcott-Haims is \n\u003cb\u003espot-on\u003c\/b\u003e with their approach to parenting, over-parenting, and preparing your children for the adult world.\"--\n\u003ci\u003eSpeaking of Apraxia\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"\n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult \u003c\/i\u003eis \n\u003cb\u003ea total no brainer to read\u003c\/b\u003e if you have a kid in college, about to go to college, has ever gone to college, or will ever go to college. Seriously, if you are a parent with college in your future, current, or past - stop reading this blog post and go and find this book. . . . \n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e is \n\u003cb\u003ea gift to all of us who are educators, and to all of us who are parents.\u003c\/b\u003e\"--\n\u003ci\u003eInside Higher Ed\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"In their easy-to-read prose . . . . \n\u003cb\u003ethe author does a superb job of laying out the facts\u003c\/b\u003e . . . . \n\u003cb\u003eTheir advice is sound and obviously much needed\u003c\/b\u003e . . . if parents want to raise productive adults.\" --\n\u003ci\u003eKirkus Reviews\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"\n\u003cb\u003eLythcott-Haims presents a convincing vision of overprotected, overparented, overscheduled kids\u003c\/b\u003e . . . . After presenting the problem in detail (through interviews with college admissions officers, educators, parents, and others), \n\u003cb\u003ethey offer a number of viable solutions\u003c\/b\u003e . . . . \n\u003cb\u003eThis vigorous text will give parents the backup needed to make essential changes\u003c\/b\u003e.\" --\n\u003ci\u003ePublishers Weekly\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"\n\u003cb\u003eJulie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure. She is a psychologist, sociologist, and anthropologist rolled into one\u003c\/b\u003e, recording the attitudes and rituals of 21st-century smart kids who can't tie their shoelaces--and of their anxious, hovering parents. Reminding us that we are charged with transforming children into adults capable of meeting the challenges of life head-on, Lythcott-Haims \n\u003cb\u003edispenses compassion and a good kick in the pants in equal and appropriate measure. Witty, wise, and dead-on, Lythcott-Haims is a tonic for what ails this generation of kids and parents. A must-read\u003c\/b\u003e for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children.\" --\n\u003ci\u003eMADELINE LEVINE, author of the New York Times bestsellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Have the good intentions of American parents gone awry? In this timely and bracing work, Julie Lythcott-Haims chronicles the many dangers of overparenting--from thwarting children's growth to hurting their job prospects to damaging parents' own well-being. Then they chart \n\u003cb\u003ea smart, compassionate alternative approach\u003c\/b\u003e that treats kids as wildflowers to be nourished rather than bonsai trees to be cultivated. \n\u003cb\u003eFor parents who want to foster hearty self-reliance instead of hollow self-esteem, \u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e is the right book at the right time\u003c\/b\u003e.\" --\n\u003ci\u003eDANIEL H. PINK, author of the New York Times bestsellers Drive and A Whole New Mind\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"I've loved this book from the moment I saw the title. \n\u003cb\u003eJulie Lythcott-Haims understands that the goal of parenting should be to raise autonomous adults, not have name-brand college admissions to brag about.\u003c\/b\u003e Their double perspective--as a parent of teenagers and a former longtime freshman dean at Stanford--makes them uniquely equipped to show parents how to do exactly that. \n\u003cb\u003eWise, honest, compassionate, and deeply informed, \u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e ought to be at the top of everybody's stack of parenting books.\u003c\/b\u003e\" --\n\u003ci\u003eWILLIAM DERESIEWICZ, author of the New York Times bestseller Excellent Sheep: The Miseducation of the American Elite and the Way to a Meaningful Life\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"While the book aims to show us how to better raise adults, Lythcott-Haims \n\u003cb\u003ealso shows how this will make us better adults\u003c\/b\u003e. . . .The timing of Lythcott-Haims wonderful book could not be better. The pendulum has swung away from helicopter parenting (just this week new research on the damage it does) and parents are looking for the \n\u003cb\u003eguidance and insight\u003c\/b\u003e in finding a better way. Lythcott-Haims \n\u003cb\u003eoffers readers just that\u003c\/b\u003e.\" --\n\u003ci\u003eGrown and Flown\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"Lythcott-Haims ... \n\u003cb\u003emakes compelling arguments\u003c\/b\u003e for why we need to break our current habits. Unlike so many other college parenting books, however, \n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e contains \n\u003cb\u003epractical suggestions for an alternative way of parenting\u003c\/b\u003e and then \n\u003cb\u003eencourages us\u003c\/b\u003e that it is possible to function differently.\" --\n\u003ci\u003eCollege Parent Central\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"This book \n\u003cb\u003ewill constantly be a guide\u003c\/b\u003e . . . . Now that I have read [it], I will be aware of the fact that as a parent I am going to raise a responsible well-adjusted adult who will be able to thrive in the real world; not a child who will need support all her life.--\n\u003ci\u003eDiva Likes\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublisher Marketing\u003c\/strong\u003e:\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eA \u003ci\u003eNew York Times \u003c\/i\u003eBestseller\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003eA provocative manifesto that exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and sets forth an alternate philosophy for raising preteens and teens to self-sufficient young adulthood.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\"Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure. . . . A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children.\" \u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003cb\u003e--Madeline Levine, author of the \u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestsellers \u003ci\u003eThe Price of Privilege\u003c\/i\u003e and \u003ci\u003eTeach Your Children Well\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eIn \n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers, and on their own insights as a parent and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, fears that lead to overhelping, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003eRelevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings-and of special value to parents of teens-this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence. \n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\"For parents who want to foster hearty self-reliance instead of hollow self-esteem, \n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e is the right book at the right time.\" -Daniel H. Pink, author of the \n\u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestsellers \n\u003ci\u003eDrive \u003c\/i\u003eand \n\u003ci\u003eA Whole New Mind\u003c\/i\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cbr\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\n\n\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eContributor Bio:\u003c\/strong\u003eLythcott-Haims, Julie\u003cbr\u003e\n\u003cb\u003eJulie Lythcott-Haims\u003c\/b\u003e is the \n\u003ci\u003eNew York Times\u003c\/i\u003e bestselling author of: \n\u003ci\u003eHow to Raise an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e which gave rise to a popular TED talk; \n\u003ci\u003eReal American\u003c\/i\u003e, which illustrates their experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces and won the PEN Oakland Josephine Miles Literary Award; and \n\u003ci\u003eYour Turn: How to Be an Adult\u003c\/i\u003e, which is considered a \"groundbreakingly frank\" guide to adulthood. They hold a B.A. from Stanford, a J.D. from Harvard Law, an MFA in Writing from California College of the Arts, and an Honorary Doctor of Letters from the University of Puget Sound. They live in Palo Alto, California with their partner of close to forty years. 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