The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

Marc Notes:
With a new introduction by the author-Cover.;Originally published: 1st ed. New York: Harper & Row, c1985.;Includes bibliographical references and index.

Table of Contents:
New Introduction to the 2014 Edition -- 1. The Challenge of Anger -- 2. Old Moves, New Moves, and Countermoves -- 3. Circular Dances in Couples: When Getting Angry is Getting Nowhere -- 4. Anger at Our Impossible Mothers: The Story of Maggie -- 5. Using Anger as a Guide: The Road to a Clearer Self -- 6. Up and Down the Generations: Katy and Her Aging Father -- 7. Who's Responsible for What: The Trickiest Anger Question -- 8. Thinking in Threes: Stepping Out of Family Triangles -- 9. Tasks for the Daring and Courageous -- Epilogue: Beyond Self-Help -- Notes -- Acknowledgments -- Index.

Jacket Description/Back:

The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller

Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel--and certainly our anger is no exception.

"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.

For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

"Of all the books that have been written about the personal relationships of women and what to do about them, this is the most sound. It contains an inspirational message for all women, regardless of their age, background, or life experience. Like a family." - Peggy Papp, MSW, the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy

"The Dance of Anger is such a helpful guide to understanding and reducing anger in close relationships.... By showing how anger works to maintain the status quo as well as to change it, Dr. Lerner gives readers information they can use to manage anger wisely and well." - Carol Tavris, Ph.D., author of Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion

"The Dance of Anger is a careful and compassionate exploration of women's anger. It will be extremely useful to almost every reader." - Susie Orbach

"Of all the books that have been written about the personal relationships of women and what to do about them, this is the most sound. Like a family heirloom, it can be passed from generation to generation as it is based on profound and lasting truths." - Peggy Papp, MSW, the Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy

The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships and personal growth.

Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel--and certainly our anger is no exception.

"Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change with clear communication skills.

For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

For decades, this groundbreaking guide to emotional intelligence has provided the essential tools to build stronger relationships and stop destructive cycles:

• Relationship Patterns: Understand and change the circular dances that keep you stuck, including the common pursuer-distancer dynamic that creates conflict in couples.
• Effective Communication: Learn to express your anger and needs clearly and constructively, without blaming others or silencing yourself.
• Family Dynamics: Get to the root of unresolved issues with your family of origin so they stop fueling conflicts in your current relationships.
• Setting Boundaries: Reclaim your sense of self by learning to say "no" to unfair circumstances and stop the "de-selfing" that leads to resentment.

Contributor Bio:Lerner, Harriet

Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is one of our nation's most loved and respected relationship experts. Renowned for her work on the psychology of women and family relationships, she served as a staff psychologist at the Menninger Clinic for more than two decades. A distinguished lecturer, workshop leader, and psychotherapist, she is the author of The Dance of Anger and other bestselling books. She is also, with her sister, an award-winning children's book writer. She and her husband are therapists in Lawrence, Kansas, and have two sons.