It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
Biographical Note: Mark Wolynn is a leading expert on inherited family trauma. He is the winner of the 2016 Silver Nautilus Award in Psychology. As the director of The Family...
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Biographical Note: --Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge "Mark Wolynn does a masterful job of illuminating the ways in which our ancestors' unresolved suffering, often unknown to us, disables us and binds us painfully to them. He gives us the tools and skills--an approach that combines understanding, imaginative dialogues, and compassionate reconnection--to free and heal ourselves." --James S. Gordon, MD, author of Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey Out of Depression " It Didn't Start with You takes us a big step forward, advancing the fields of trauma therapy, mindfulness applications, and human understanding. It is a bold, creative, and compassionate work." --Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness "Mark Wolynn's extraordinary book cracks the secret code of families and proves that you can go home again--once you understand how history made you. Full of life-changing stories, powerful insights, and practical tools for personal healing, It Didn't Start With You deserves a place on your bookshelf next to Alice Miller's The Drama of the Gifted Child and Dan Siegel's The Developing Mind. You'll never see your family the same way again." --Mark Matousek, author of Ethical Wisdom "Bridging both neuroscience and psychodynamic thinking, It Didn't Start with You provides the reader with Mark Wolynn's hard-earned toolbox of do-it-yourself clinical aids and provocative insights." --Jess P. Shatkin, MD, MPH, Vice Chair for Education at NYU Langone Medical Center's Child Study Center and author of Child & Adolescent Mental Health "After reading It Didn't Start with You, I found myself immediately able to apply Mark Wolynn's techniques with my patients and saw incredible results, in a shorter time than with traditional psychotherapeutic techniques. I encourage you to read this book. It's truly cutting edge." --Alexanndra Kreps, MD "Mark Wolynn elegantly weaves together the threads of generational and attachment trauma, offering a groundbreaking synthesis of neuroscience, psychology, and lived experience. Drawing on the latest epigenetic research, he provides a powerful trauma language map--a tool to help readers decode their symptoms, trace them to their origins, and begin the journey of healing. This book is full of healing sentences, practices, and rituals that guide readers toward greater awareness, integration, and repair. It is both a compassionate companion and a practical guide for anyone seeking to transform inherited pain into embodied wholeness." --Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D, author of The Power of Attachment and Healing Your Attachment Wounds "This book is essential reading. A must read. Mark Wolynn's approach to inherited and early developmental family trauma and its effect on health and wellbeing is groundbreaking." --Dr. Bruce Hoffman, Medical Director, The Hoffman Centre for Integrative Medicine "Utterly invaluable and endlessly fascinating, Mark Wolynn's book, It Didn't Start With You, links our psychology and biology in a profound new way, giving us the power to understand and transform ourselves in the face of what seems inevitable. Identifying our unconscious loyalties to our ancestor's trauma through a series of practical questions and exercises, gives us the keys to unlock our own freedom and compassion. Reading this book is like being a part of one of Mark's transformative workshops, a brave and powerful journey to self-realization." --Brenda Strong, Emmy Nominated Actress Desperate Housewives, Dallas, 13 Reasons Why, Supergirl, and CEO of Strong Yoga4Women "As medical doctors, we often treat the symptom. I've witnessed Mark identify the pattern and treat the cause." --Dr. Russell Kennedy, author of The Anxiety RX Praise for THE OFFICIAL IT DIDN'T START WITH YOU WORKBOOK "It is a deep pleasure to welcome Mark Wolynn's follow-up publication. In his first book ( It Didn't Start With You), he provided guidance to those suffering from hidden forces --those passed down from our ancestors affecting our lives, our health, our relationships and our capacity to find inner peace. In this new release, a well thought out workbook, he expands on his original book by providing people with practical tools and exercises to release them from the tyranny from the past. Thank you Mark for your contribution, a valuable gift to those seeking healing and personal growth." --Dr. Peter A Levine, bestselling author of Waking the Tiger and An Autobiography of Trauma, A Healing Journey Publisher Marketing: INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER -- MORE THAN THREE MILLION COPIES SOLD TRANSLATED INTO 39 LANGUAGES FULLY REVISED AND UPDATED IN 2025 "This groundbreaking book offers a compelling understanding of inherited trauma and fresh, powerful tools for relieving its suffering. Mark Wolynn is a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey toward healing." --Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge It Didn't Start With You and its companion, The Official It Didn't Start with You Workbook, provide a groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains--but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited--that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn't Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood. As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over twenty years. It Didn't Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn't Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch. |
Author: Wolynn, Mark
Publisher: Penguin Life
Binding: Paperback
Pub Date: 2017-04-25
BISAC: Psychology / Psychotherapy / Couples & Family|Psychology / Mental Health|Self-Help / Personal Growth / General|Psychology / Psychopathology / General
Subjects: Self-actualization (Psychology)|Psychic trauma|Memory
Weight: 0.52 lbs
ISBN: 9781101980385
ASIN: -
SKU: SP-9781101980385
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