The Power of Parting: Finding Peace and Freedom Through Family Estrangement
The Power of Parting: Finding Peace and Freedom Through Family Estrangement
Review Quotes: "This is a brave book that takes on the painful experience of estrangement and instead of framing and pathologizing it as mere ego and stubbornness, it is infused...
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Review Quotes: "I've never seen such clarity and compassion offered to people who struggle with toxic family members. Whether you choose to stay connected or take your distance, this book will guide you in understanding what's happening and deciding what's best for you." -- Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? "In this clear-eyed, practical, and compassionate book, Eamon Dolan floods light into the dark house of family suffering and gives other survivors an invaluable gift: permission to heal." -- Julie L. Hall, author of The Narcissist in Your Life "The Power of Parting is a compassionate and empowering guide for anyone dealing with chronic stress from toxic family members. In this groundbreaking book, Eamon Dolan provides the tools and encouragement to navigate the often painful but necessary journey of setting firm boundaries and prioritizing personal well-being. Dolan offers validation and clarity during the process of distancing from toxic family members. His practical advice, drawn from real-life experiences, brings hope for those striving to create a healthier and more authentic life. This book is not just about creating clear boundaries; it's about healing, self-discovery, and the courage to choose yourself. A must-read for anyone seeking freedom from unhealthy family dynamics." -- Stephanie Moulton Sarkis PhD, psychotherapist and author of Healing from Toxic Relationships: 10 Essential Steps to Recover from Gaslighting, Narcissism, and Emotional Abuse Biographical Note: Eamon Dolan has worked as an editor at HarperCollins, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, and Penguin Press. He is currently Vice President & Executive Editor at Simon & Schuster. He's also a professional photographer whose work has been shown at the International Center of Photography and elsewhere. He lives in Brooklyn, New York. Brief Description: "After decades of enduring his mother's physical and psychological torment, after years of trying in vain to set boundaries, Eamon Dolan took a radical step: he cut his mother out of his life. No more phone calls, no more visits, no more contact. Parting with his abuser gave him immediate relief and set him on a path toward freedom, confidence, and joy like none he had ever felt before. In The Power of Parting, Dolan has written the book he wishes he'd had when he was struggling to free himself from his mother's abuse. In the process, he discovered how widespread estrangement really is. At least 27 percent of Americans are estranged from a parent, sibling, or other family member. He also learned why so much stigma surrounds this common-and often lifesaving-phenomenon. Even among therapists-the professionals who would seem most attuned to the pain relatives can inflict-there's a bias toward reconciliation, when millions of their patients need instead to escape their abusers' grip. Estrangement, Dolan realized, should be understood and embraced, not shrouded in shame. Drawing on his own suffering and healing, as well as experts' advice and the testimony of other courageous survivors, Dolan first explains why abuse is much different and more prevalent than we may think, how it harms us in childhood and beyond, and why limiting or eliminating contact might be our best possible choice. Then, he walks readers through the steps of a successful, positive estrangement: how to take crucial time for yourself; how to make sure no one can gaslight you into minimizing or forgetting; how to set rules for your abuser and-if they can't or won't respect your limits-how to end a toxic relationship. He also offers valuable counsel on how to ease the guilt and grief that often accompany parting, and how to break the cycle of abuse that was likely passed down to you through many generations. With a convincing blend of clarity and empathy, Dolan encourages others to do what he ultimately did for himself: determine whether the people in your life treat you with the care and concern you deserve-and part ways with them if they don't"-- Publisher Marketing: A myth-shattering, inspiring book that combines research, reportage, and memoir to explore the growing phenomenon of estrangement from toxic relatives--showing it not as a tragedy, but as an empowering and effective solution to the heartbreak of family abuse. After decades of enduring his mother's physical and psychological torment, after years of trying in vain to set boundaries, Eamon Dolan took a radical step: he cut his mother out of his life. No more phone calls, no more visits, no more contact. Parting with his abuser gave him immediate relief and set him on a path toward freedom, confidence, and joy like none he had ever felt before. In The Power of Parting, Dolan has written the book he wishes he'd had when he was struggling to free himself from his mother's abuse. In the process, he discovered how widespread estrangement really is. At least 27 percent of Americans are estranged from a parent, sibling, or other family member. He also learned why so much stigma surrounds this common--and often lifesaving--phenomenon. Even among therapists--the professionals who would seem most attuned to the pain relatives can inflict--there's a bias toward reconciliation, when millions of their patients need instead to escape their abusers' grip. Estrangement, Dolan realized, should be understood and embraced, not shrouded in shame. Drawing on his own suffering and healing, as well as experts' advice and the testimony of other courageous survivors, Dolan first explains why abuse is much different and more prevalent than we may think, how it harms us in childhood and beyond, and why limiting or eliminating contact might be our best possible choice. Then, he walks readers through the steps of a successful, positive estrangement: how to take crucial time for yourself; how to make sure no one can gaslight you into minimizing or forgetting; how to set rules for your abuser and--if they can't or won't respect your limits--how to end a toxic relationship. He also offers valuable counsel on how to ease the guilt and grief that often accompany parting, and how to break the cycle of abuse that was likely passed down to you through many generations. With a convincing blend of clarity and empathy, Dolan encourages others to do what he ultimately did for himself: determine whether the people in your life treat you with the care and concern you deserve--and part ways with them if they don't. Review Citations:
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Author: Dolan, Eamon
Publisher: G.P. Putnam's Sons
Binding: Hardcover
Pub Date: 2025-04-01
BISAC: Family & Relationships / Abuse / Child Abuse|Biography & Autobiography / Memoirs|Self-Help / Adult Children of Substance Abusers
Subjects: Dolan, Eamon|Victims of family violence|Dysfunctional families|Psychological aspects|Estranged families|Alienation (Social psychology)|Interpersonal conflict|Separation (Psychology)|Self-help publications|Family
Weight: 0.98 lbs
ISBN: 9780593714126
ASIN: -
SKU: SP-9780593714126
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