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The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality * Next Generation Indie Book Awards Winner in LGBT *

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality * Next Generation Indie Book Awards Winner in LGBT *

Table of Contents: Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- My Story -- What Is This Book About? -- Who Is This Book For? -- Why Was This Book Written? -- Part 1....

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Table of Contents:
Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- My Story -- What Is This Book About? -- Who Is This Book For? -- Why Was This Book Written? -- Part 1. Asexuality -- The Basics -- Asexuality Is a Sexual Orientation -- Asexuality Is a Mature State -- Asexuality Is a Description -- Asexuality Is a Healthy Status -- Asexuality Is a Reasonable Possibility -- Part 2. Asexual Experiences -- Romantic Orientation -- Romanticism -- Aromanticism -- Grayromanticism -- Demiromanticism -- Libido and Masturbation -- Intimate and Sexual Activity -- Polyamory and Non-Monogamy -- Kink, Fetish Play and BDSM -- Gray Areas -- Graysexuality -- Demisexuality -- Asexual Relationships -- Society, Discrimination, and Queer Communities -- Asexual Community -- Young and Asexual -- Older and Asexual -- Asexual Women, Asexual Men -- Asexual People of Color -- Gay / Queer and Asexual -- Transgender and Asexual -- Other Non-Cisgender / Non-Binary Identities and Asexuality -- Autistic and Asexual -- Disability, Illness, Mental Illness, Disorders, and Asexuality -- Asexual People and Entertainment -- Asexual Community Insiders -- Non-Asexual People -- The Asexual Experience -- Part 3. The Many Myths of Asexuality Bingo! -- Aren't They Using the Word Asexual Incorrectly? -- Is Asexuality Based On Fear of or Anger Toward Other Genders? -- Do People Become Asexual Because They Fail at Dating? -- Do People Become Asexual Because They're Physically Unattractive? -- Do Asexual People Have a Physical or Hormonal Problem? -- Are Asexual People Too Distracted by Their Busy Lives to Be Sexual? -- Did Asexual People Have a Bad Sexual Experience and Swear Off Sex? -- Could Asexual People Be Suffering From Trauma Brought on by Sexual Abuse? -- Could Asexual People Be Secretly Gay? -- Have Asexual People Just Not Met the Right Person? -- Is Asexuality a Religious Statement? -- Are Asexual People Going Through a Phase or Seeking Attention by Being Different? -- Wouldn't Asexual People Be Lonely All the Time? -- Are Asexual People Repressed, Boring, or Dispassionate? -- Aren't Asexual People Being Awfully Selfish? Isn't an Asexual Person a Tease? -- Don't Asexual People Need to Procreate? -- Do Asexual People Hate Sex or People Who Have Sex? -- Should Asexual People Get Therapy to Be Fixed? -- Aren't Asexual People So Lucky to Have Simple, Uncomplicated Lives Without Sex? -- Shouldn't Asexual People Let an Experienced Sexual Partner Change Their Minds? -- Part 4. If You're Asexual (Or Think You Might Be) -- Am I Asexual? -- But This Changes Everything! -- Should I Come Out? -- How Should I Handle the Criticism? -- What If I'm a Teenager? Everyone Keeps Calling Me a Late Bloomer. -- What If I'm Already in a Relationship, or Want to Be? What Do I Tell My Partner(s)? -- So Where Do I Go From Here? -- Part 5. If Someone You Know Is Asexual (Or Might Be) -- A Message for Non-Asexual People -- What Does It AU Mean? -- What Do Asexual People Want? How Can I Make Them Feel Accepted? -- So How Can I Acknowledge Their Existence? -- Is There Anything I Should Avoid Saying or Doing? -- Somebody Just Told Me They're Asexual! What Do I Say? -- But What If I've Already Said Something Kind of Regrettable? -- What If My Child Just Said They're Asexual? Are They Too Young To Know? -- What If My Partner Just Said They're Asexual? What Do I Do? -- Can I Ask Questions? -- What Questions Can I Ask Without Making Someone Uncomfortable? -- Anything I Should Avoid Assuming? -- Part 6. Other Resources -- Basic Information, Introductions, Organizations, and FAQs: -- Discussion Groups, Networking, and Forums -- Academic Resources and Research Collectives -- Brochures and Educational Materials -- Published Papers and Book Chapters on Asexuality -- Published Articles and Interviews on Asexuality -- Asexuality-Related Professional Video Media -- Asexuality-Related Audio Interviews, Presentations, and Podcasts -- Internet Videos and Channels on Asexuality -- Asexuality-Related Blogs -- Asexual Perspectives Contributors -- Bibliography -- Index.

Review Quotes:
"This title is an important resource for readers of any age who are struggling to understand their sexual orientation, or those who would like to better understand asexuality." -- Library Journal, starred review

"This book shines a much-needed light on an experience that's far more common than most people realize. Julie Decker brings together the many different voices and stories of asexual people, presents valuable information, and offers helpful insight about how non-asexual people can be supportive. If you or someone you know is or might be asexual, read this book. And if you're a sexuality or relationship professional, read this book. Asexuality is part of the sexuality spectrum and you need The Invisible Orientation on your shelves."--Charlie Glickman, PhD, certified sexological bodyworker

"I'll admit it: I used to think asexuality was not real. I couldn't wrap my head around the concept--sex is a huge part of my life, so how could it be insignificant to someone else? Boy, was I ignorant! This book is a comprehensive learning tool for those who are asexual, as well as those who are asexual curious. Advocating respect, this rare and precious resource will open your eyes and set the record straight in a clear and straightforward manner. Prepare to have your mind blown!" --Kendra Holliday, creator of The Beautiful Kind blog

"This is a long overdue book. It provides a sense of what it is like to be asexual that can sometimes be missing from academic work. . . . It is a book with the potential to make a positive difference to many people's lives and help combat what the author describes as the 'insidious form of exclusion' that asexual people continue to experience." --Mark Carrigan, Department of Sociology, University of Warwick

"This fascinating book will make more space for thoughtful understanding of sexual diversity and desire and help us understand just how variable human sexuality really is. For sex educators, therapists, and scholars, it's a must-read. For asexual people (or the 'A-questioning'), who are so frequently invisibilized and disrespected, it may well offer the kind of succor, support, and information that every person--across the sex, gender, and partnering spectra--deserves." --Carol Queen, PhD, Founding Director, Center for Sex & Culture and author, Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture

Biographical Note:
Julie Sondra Decker has been a prominent voice for the asexual community since 1998, spreading asexuality awareness through her popular videos and blog essays. She has been interviewed in many mainstream publications, including Marie Claire, Salon, and the Daily Beast, and she was a prominent interviewee in the documentary (A)sexual by Arts Engine. She is a regular contributor to Good Vibrations. As an aromantic, asexual woman, she is happily single and resides in Tampa, Florida.

Publisher Marketing:
Next Generation Indie Book Awards Winner in LGBT . "An important resource for readers of any age who are struggling to understand their sexual orientation, or those who would like to better understand asexuality." -- Library Journal, starred review
Julie Sondra Decker's book functions as a starting point for people interested in asexuality. It covers the basics of what asexuality is and isn't, explores the most common issues asexual people may be dealing with, presents some pointers for newly asexual-identified people and the people who love them, and includes some resources to find out more. It's for the layperson, written in everyday language.

She writes for people who are on the asexual spectrum, people who think they might be asexual, friends and family and partners of people who have come out as asexual, curious parties, and those looking for information on the subject for their school papers, sexuality studies, and alternative sexuality resources. And it's for people who think asexuality doesn't exist. Chapters include:
  • Asexuality as a Sexual Orientation
  • Romantic Orientation
  • Libido and Masturbation
  • Intimate and Sexual Activity
  • Asexual Relationships
  • Asexual Community
  • Should Asexual People Get Therapy and Be Fixed
  • Am I Asexual?
  • Should I Come Out?
  • And much more

If you think you may be asexual, or if you have a friend or partner who may be a sexual, this personal book will help you better understand what it means to be asexual in a world dominated by sexuality.



Author: Decker, Julie Sondra
Publisher: Skyhorse Publishing
Binding: Paperback
Pub Date: 2015-10-13
BISAC: Health & Fitness / Sexuality|Psychology / Human Sexuality (see also Social Science / Human Sexuality)|Psychology / History
Subjects: Asexual people|Asexuality (Sexual orientation)
Weight: 0.95 lbs
ISBN: 9781634502436
ASIN: -
SKU: SP-9781634502436

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